walking birth control ad
September 20, 2007 at 4:44 PM i look back now and understand why everyone looked at my poor pregnant body with pity. there i was, big as a house, with 3 more little ones pulling me every which way. bring your teenagers close to the screen, "you don't want to end up like her do you?"
this shot was taken about 2 hours before i went into labor. i truly had a seperate entity sitting on my lap.
and it's not just the fact that i was pregnant. it's the yard, and the house, and the kids fighting and crawling all over me. i don't often feel like it now, but i know i look like the little old woman who lived in a shoe, had so many children she didn't know what to do...
so, since having the baby i've had 2 complete strangers come up to me and ask me what birth control options i am now considering. complete strangers. in public places. do i honestly look that overwhelmed? again..."you don't want to end up like HER do you?"
yes, i do feel a need for a break. (there, all you strangers, you've won!) HOWEVER, i have ALWAYS wanted a big family... and we haven't got a BIG family yet. ;-D so... we will be taking a break, but despite being very miserable this last pregnancy, i will be doing it again. i know now that i just need more space between children so that i can be the best mom possible to each one of them.
i've heard other mom's talk about when they *knew* they were done having babies; that a sense of completion washed over them... and they knew. i feel nothing like this. and yet i am completely overwhelmed with my flock. so i will continue to be a walking ad for birth control until the time comes to add more.
after hearing about my standing delivery of lil H a friend clued me into this clip from the completely sacriligious film by monty python, "the life of brian." you only need to watch the first 80 seconds to know exactly what i'm talking about. i don't think i want a family quite that big...
Reader Comments (9)
Oh my gosh. That clip was hilarious! I keep getting this feeling that there are more children waiting to come down to my little house soon .. and I keep fighting that feeling. Take your break. Enjoy the ones you've got for a while - and then it's back to baby making. :)
I'm a walking billboard with you. For real.
I've had that overwhelming feeling. I know we are done. But Sei had scheduled a vasecotomy after I had Taj and I told him straight up "We have a little girl up there that needs to come here." He canceled his appt. and now Livie is here. I let him keep his appt. this time. :)
Hang in there!
Bossy is exhausted just reading this and must now return to her bed. (Any excuse, really.)
First of all how can some people be so forward as to ask you about birth control when they don't even know you? I once asked a woman when she was due and she wasn't even pregnant so I learned my lesson to never be nosey when I don't know someone.
Second, so how many kids do you ideally want? You are one brave woman!
i really don't understand why people think they have a right to impose their beliefs on someone else ... you should absolutely do whatever it is that makes you happy!! it all sounds lovely to me : )
hugs!
Pregnant w/#2 and at 35 weeks was asked by the Midwife what birth control I want to consider after baby. I am still carrying her!! ARGH!! One thing at a time, please!
Those complete strangers? Hello, MYOB! How freakin' rude is that?! That said, I am in the advertising business, and I think you'd be a great model for the sponge.
Kidding!
Just wanted to say that I think your kids are great and in ten years the same people who are asking about birth control now will be asking "so how did you get them to be such good friends?"
Reba
I haven't yet reached that feeling of completion either. With babies this amazing and beautiful, I just can't imagine not having another! But... The house is getting small and so are my nerves. I wonder if that means I call it done?
I admire you as a mommy and your family is so beautiful! You should tell those nosy people that you're pregnant again already, so no need for BC! That ought to cut them short and leave them with jaws dropped!